Opinion | Gay Marriage Was a Big Missed Opportunity

All copyrighted images used with permission of the respective copyright holders.

The Modest Framing of Gay Marriage Set the Stage for Today’s Backlash

It’s a strange time for gay rights in America. As the country nears the 10th anniversary of the legalization of same-sex marriage nationwide, support for it has risen to 70 percent of the American public. But at the same time, L.G.B.T.Q. people are being targeted in ways not seen since the days of Save Our Children, Anita Bryant’s infamous 1977 campaign against gay rights that depicted gay men as human garbage and pedophiles. In recent years, Republican-controlled state legislatures have banned drag shows, gender-affirming care for minors and adults, and the teaching of sexual orientation from kindergarten through the third grade, including the passage of Florida’s “Don’t Say Gay” law. Panic about “grooming”, a homophobic slur that exploits people’s worst fears about gay people and children, is having a moment. Even Obergefell v. Hodges, the 2015 Supreme Court ruling that legalized gay marriage nationally, is under attack. In 2020, Justices Samuel Alito and Clarence Thomas cast doubt on the legality of the ruling, which could yet go the same way as Roe v. Wade. The Respect for Marriage Act, passed by Congress in 2022, did not codify the ruling into law and would provide scant protection.

Key Takeaways:

  • While support for same-sex marriage has grown significantly, LGBTQ+ individuals are facing increased discrimination and hostility, fueled by fears about "grooming" and the expansion of rights beyond marriage.
  • The narrowly-framed campaign for marriage equality, focusing primarily on rights and benefits, may have limited its transformative power and left LGBTQ+ rights vulnerable to backlash.
  • Countries like Spain and Brazil achieved greater success in securing full equality for LGBTQ+ individuals by framing their movements around broader concepts of citizenship, dignity, and social justice.
  • By recalibrating their strategies and adopting a more ambitious message focused on citizenship and dignity, American LGBTQ+ activists could achieve greater success in achieving lasting equality.

A Missed Opportunity

Clearly, marriage equality was not enough to bring full equality to L.G.B.T.Q. Americans. It would be wishful to think it could, perhaps. But the gay marriage campaign was a major missed opportunity to expand L.G.B.T.Q. equality. When compared with its foreign counterparts, the American campaign was notable for one thing: the extraordinary modesty of its framing.

Inspired by the civil rights movement’s struggle for equality under the law, the campaign, which ran for roughly two decades until the ruling in 2015, was framed around rights and benefits. It spotlighted the rights denied to same-sex couples, including tax deductions, inheritance provisions and hospital visitation privileges. But the message backfired, coming across as sterile, materialistic and unpersuasive. It also invited the criticism that gay people were comparing their struggle for marriage to the fight against racial discrimination by African Americans. A different message, centered on love and commitment, was introduced late in the campaign to show that same-sex couples wanted marriage for the same reasons heterosexuals do.

Neither messaging, however, made the case for L.G.B.T.Q. equality beyond pleading for opening the institution of marriage to same-sex couples. For the most part, gay marriage activists did not defend the morality of homosexual unions. Nor did they refute the claim by the Christian right that gay marriage was a threat to the family and religious freedom.

To be sure, extending marriage rights to same-sex couples was a major step for American society. But it did not require Americans to question their fundamental assumptions about L.G.B.T.Q. people. And despite its modesty, the campaign didn’t stop backlash or the sense among conservative activists and lawmakers that attacking L.G.B.T.Q. people is a low-risk proposition.

Looking Abroad for Inspiration

There were different ways to frame the struggle for gay marriage, as other countries showed. In Spain, for example, gay marriage activists waged a crusade for full citizenship, emphasizing not only rights and benefits but also dignity and respect. They also posited gay marriage as moral redemption for historical injustices against gay and lesbian people dating back to the burning of “sodomites” at the stake during the Spanish Inquisition.

This ambitious framing paved the way for a gay marriage law in 2005 that made Spain, as The New York Times reported, “the first nation to eliminate all legal distinctions between same-sex and heterosexual unions.” It also prompted a frank debate about the state of sexual minorities in Spanish society and converted Spain, historically a social backwater, into the country most accepting of homosexuality. Its resonance with ordinary Spaniards also worked to blunt the backlash from one of the most powerful Catholic establishments in Christendom.

Echoes of Spain’s pioneering gay marriage campaign can be found in countries as diverse as Argentina, Canada, Brazil, South Africa and Ireland. In all of them, gay marriage was framed as a moral issue rather than a legal matter. Brazil is notable because, as in the United States, gay marriage was legalized by the courts and in the face of stiff opposition by evangelical leaders. Brazilian gay activists argued that same-sex unions qualified as stable unions, a category of relationships that the Brazilian Constitution deems equivalent to marriage in recognition of a tradition of unmarried cohabitation in Brazilian history.

But the Brazilian campaign also contended that extending marriage rights to same-sex couples was in keeping with the human rights aspirations that Brazil set for itself after its transition to democracy in 1985. Since gay marriage was legalized there in 2013, the human rights framing has proved persuasive with Brazil’s Federal Supreme Court, leading to historic rulings on transgender rights and the criminalization of homophobia.

Of course, we cannot expect what happened abroad to be reproduced at home. In Spain and Brazil, gay activists exploited histories of L.G.B.T.Q. oppression and violence to fashion compelling moral messages. The Spanish campaign unfolded in the midst of a national reckoning with the atrocities of the Spanish Civil War and the Franco dictatorship, which included sending gay and lesbian people to “re-education” camps. The Brazilian campaign played out against the backdrop of an epidemic of L.G.B.T.Q. killings known as a homocaust that gay activists say has claimed some 300 L.G.B.T.Q. lives every year since the mid-1980s.

But just because the conditions surrounding the struggle for gay marriage were different abroad does not mean that there’s nothing for American gay activists to learn. After all, the culture war over gay marriage in countries like Spain, Brazil and Ireland was won with smaller and less seasoned gay rights movements than in the United States and against formidable opponents like the Catholic Church and the evangelical movement.

A New Path Forward

American gay activists would be wise to recalibrate their activism, shifting from a rights-based approach, with its emphasis on litigation, to one more oriented toward citizenship and dignity. They may also want to embrace a more ambitious and idealistic mind-set, aiming squarely at public persuasion. Modesty has its virtues, of course. But when it comes to struggles for fairness and equality, it pays to go big and aim high.

Article Reference

Olivia King
Olivia King
Olivia King is a social media expert and digital marketer. Her writing focuses on the most shared content across platforms, exploring the reasons behind viral trends and the impact of social media. Olivia's expertise helps readers understand the dynamics of online sharing.